Guys who thought their relationship was fine, but their partner thought it wasn’t, how did you approach the topic?

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1. If either party doesn’t think the relationship is fine, then the relationship isn’t fine. Start from that perspective and discuss why they don’t think it’s fine. After that, set a plan together to work on those issues.

2. “I’m unhappy”
   “Me too”
   “Let’s talk about it”

3. You can cut the act I know how you feel.
   There is the door. Be free willy
   I’m not angry, or sad or disappointed. We both know I feel nothing right now. Remember what I told you. I’ve taken away the chain, I won’t chase for you, I won’t cry for you, I won’t reminisce about you, when you walk away, I’ll do everything I can to forget you.
   She smiled and chuckled and said “Even if I end up regretting it, I’ll always remember you my Big Teddy Bear. Thanks for the memories. But your right I don’t feel comfortable with you. The way you do things make me afraid of you, too much I might even say fear you. Knowing who you are I know what you say is true. Thank you. I wish I was the one who saved you! Goodbye, (my name)”

   Fast forward last thing I heard she was taken a ride of awhile from a couple of bad guys. She’s a single mother who lives with her mother.

   Some of my old friends want me to be her savior and be there for her. But I said no, she made the decision of walking away. But I did break my promise. I sent her message and talked then we stopped talking. 🤣

4. Divorce from her 😂😮‍💨😮‍💨

5. Like in a significant way? I usually left those.

   In my personal opinion if a relationship is a pile of work to keep going or the other person is not into it as much or even more then I am its not worth the trouble to keep it.

6. She said I don’t wan to be married to you anymore.
   I decided to change my behavior and make her a priority.
   Married 20 years

7. Talking.

8. I didn’t approach the topic. She did. By confessing that she has lost feelings for me and that she was in denial for the past couple of months but she’s sure of it now. Hit me like a truck honestly.

   This immediately opened my eyes. Made me realize that I’d gotten too comfortable and insensitive in the relationship. She wanted to take a break but once I had realized how hurtful my actions had been and how she didn’t deserve anything but the best, I insisted that we break up. Simply because I could not subject her to be in a place where she didn’t feel that she was valued, loved, and cared for.

   As absent as I had been in the relationship, each part of me respected her, cared for her, and wanted her to be happy. Knowing that I was her culprit, I couldn’t allow myself to be with her, couldn’t consider myself deserving of her.
   Letting her go was the best thing I could do for her and for myself.

9. We didn’t and she left after almost 16 years lol.
   Dems da breaks

10. never take a woman for granted.

    always go to her, praise her for the good food, give her a kiss, say goodbye and greet her with a hug, and talk to her.

11. I don’t. If I’m not the one that’s unhappy I’m not the one obligated to say something about it.

12. You start with yourself.

    You will get so much farther starting with simply saying “Maybe they have a point” instead of “No, that’s not true”.

    That goes with change you would like to see as well. If your partner is not doing/giving something you need, ask yourself “What can I do to make that happen?”

    You can only control yourself, and you have to trust your partner will respect you enough to meet you in the middle somewhere.

    Best advice though? Make it a point to check in with your partner regularly so you can head things off at the pass so to speak.