What do y’all think about my situation in this
It’s not that we’ve broken up but i think(?) We’re on that path. I’m in a relationship with this amazing girl who’s really kind and loving to me since several months now. It’s was amazing at the start, but she always had the doubts that we aren’t compatible together. She dated me even tho she thought this because she really liked me it seems.
I’m facing through some really severe problems in my life which aren’t related to the relationship, so this makes me a sad and boring person in general irl. My gf has unfortunately never been truly happy all her life and she says that she expected to only be happy and in a fun relationship. But since I carry so much emotional baggage( like I’m sad many times and constantly seek validation and affirmation that she won’t be leaving me) this drains her a lot and I’m sorry for it. I’m very loving and caring towards her and she values me a lot, she loves me a lot too. But she feels that only love can’t be a basis for a long term relationship. And she says that she doesn’t care much abt what will happen in the future or how good it may be for us , instead she wants to feel happy at the present moment and not go through hardships. I completely agree and understand her. This girl only deserves the best there is and I love her a lot. I asked her that just let’s be together and she said that for now she doesn’t think that she’d leave me. What are ur thoughts on this.
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Love really doesn’t overcome all obstacles. You both have work to do on yourselves. When you decide to be with another person, you are saying that you are in the position in your life where you are fully capable and willing to take on another person’s particular problems (because everyone has something) as well as the good. That means if one person in the partnership is unable to care for another’s needs or problems then you aren’t compatible in that relationship. Either because you don’t have capacity or because the other person’s problems are so big that they need to handle them on their own before they can be expected to ask anyone else to handle them. She is essentially telling you that she just wants to have a carefree, happy relationship. That is all she wants to bring to the table. That is OK, it just isn’t the right one for you. I would really look to be whole and complete in yourself and find someone else who is the same. You will save yourself a lot of heartache by following this advice.