I’m gonna explain, and if you have a better definition for me, please tell.
First of all, I am a cis man with no body dysphoria, and I love women.
My problem is that, in sex, I don’t have any urge to make love “as a man” – that is, I find no interest (or almost) in PIV penetration, I don’t like to top or dominate. I don’t like BJs. I like endless cuddles for hours, caressing my partner all around and to be caressed too, making her boob orgasms, licking her neck and ears until she gets goosebumps, having slurpy kisses, giving her oral, fingering her, and possibly fingering both our anuses if she is into it. I also like if she masturbates me… but like a woman, all around the pelvis, not the penis. This makes me come to awesome hands-free mostly prostatic orgasms.
The problem is that’s NOT what most straight women like and expect. Most want a man who tops them and penetrates them at a moment. In the meantime, I am not into bdsm so I don’t want a woman to make me suffer, but however I like one who is topping me and is a little directive.
I wonder if such a woman ever exists.
Tl;dr
I am straight but making love as if I were a woman.
Is it a name for this and could I find a partner to like this?
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I would say you are a hetro submissve who is into soft or gentle femdom, maybe mommydom in a sense.
Nahh you’re straight based on what you said
You are just a submissive man who needs a gentle femdom
I wouldn’t say you’re a lesbian men lol
But I think I know what you mean, with the difference that my bf likes penetration and we do that a lot as well, so we have both sides. (we’re both switches)I remember thinking more than once that we were fucking like I fuck women, and it’s a very different dynamic from my other experiences with men and I definitely enjoy it tons.
Not at all. You don’t become lesbian because you like more foreplay than penetration. Nothing says being pleasured is for females and penetration is for men.
There are plenty of men who would rather do exactly as you describe above. Yes, the stereotypical straight man would want what you said “most women want a man who tops them and penetrates them at a moment”, but that is not the rule.
Sorry if this comes out as racial profiling but your argument is similar to saying “I like a lot of spicy food, does that make me an Asian”
This is fascinating to me cause I have a cis male partner and mostly we don’t have sex like this but recently we’ve branched out into doing “””lesbian sex””” where we literally pretend he’s a woman and it’s basically how you describe (there is some PIV but we make believe it’s a strap on. We get in the mood by giving him a girly makeover). And… it’s really awesome actually. I never thought he’d go for it, the idea was p much all driven by me, so I was really happy when he was eager to try it. I guess what I’m trying to say is that there’s definitely at least one woman in the world who likes to have sex with a guy like how you describe. You don’t have to be a top if you don’t want.
Well a lesbian man my hope for all it lesbian man’s that like women anyway because if I was a woman I would be a lesbian but yet what you’re saying is very common and you’re very much okay that’s how you feel that if her reactions with you are strong and extremely responsive with what she touches and does to you and open up as a man to that woman me I can only do it when she comes down my throat and feels my belly is like my hormones just go to Sky High and I am limitless and no limitations it’s like babe do as you wish and let her have fun just thought just a beginning of what I’ve learned
That’s it just enjoy Who You Are and hell I’m probably the biggest lesbian around but I’ll tell you what the right situation the right gal I would be right there with the other guy having fun with a girl or Etc or whatever the situation because I know and you do too start to experiment have fun find some people in your life that help you with this
Honestly, I would love having sex like this, but I’m a queer pansexual woman. You might have more luck dating queer/bi/pan women, as we tend to be more open minded about what counts as sex