I’m a 20 year old guy in London who has never dated before. I started using Bumble and Tinder a few weeks ago and feel a bit bummed out because not only am I not getting any matches, but the girls I see on there aren’t really my type.
I earn good money in STEM, I’m in good shape, I’m decently mannered, and I have at least some social skills. But because of the industry I work in everybody is much older than I am. In every job I’m always the youngest in the company, so I don’t have the opportunity to meet girls my own age through work. I don’t have much of a friend circle either and the friends that I do have are at least ten years older.
I’ve thought about cold approaching girls but I’m not socially fluent enough and I feel like I would be putting on an act of confidence. Or may even scare them. I don’t want to present a fake version of myself.
I’ve also thought about going out more but I don’t want to get wasted every weekend at a club. As for hobbies, I go to the gym but it’s not an appropriate place to hit on people. I’m into a wide range of music which I thought would help my dating profile but it doesn’t seem to matter.
I don’t know. Just a bit lost :(. Any tips?
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Post your profile to the review thread pinned to the top of r/Tinder
Read How To Win Friends and Influence People, and The Man’s Guide to Women
Forget about dating apps. Those are made for girls. A fat ugly girl will have 1000+ matches. I’m not saying you can’t make it work, but acknowledge that as a man you should use it to complement your life rather than depend on it.
Talk to girls outside, sometimes casually, sometimes direct. When you notice a girl is into you take action and don’t overthink it.