I let someone I’ve been seeing finish inside of me, and it’s the first time I’ve let anyone do so. I think I always expected it to be a more exciting and bonding experience, but quite honestly it made me feel disgusted like I disrespected my body. Wondering if this is normal or how other women felt their first time?
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It is definitely the most intimate and bonding experience, so my first thought is that you don’t really like this guy. It’s not that a guy cumming inside you will magically bond you to him. It’s that if you already have a deep connection, it can reinforce that bond through a shared intimate experience. If you felt disgusted, it’s probably because you don’t have any real connection to him. Unless you have some hangups about bodily fluids or something.
Don’t know. I’m a dude but I would feel terrible if I made a girl feel like that. You talked to him or does he think everything’s just peachy? Also don’t know how to say this so I’ll just say it, clean up. Take your mind off of it.
For me, a guy finishing inside me is very intimate. A strong bond would be necessary prior to letting him do that. I don’t think of it as a way to create a bond, but rather, something that reinforces a bond that is already there, and already pretty strong. I have probably around 10 sexual partners, but I’ve only ever let my ex finish in me. But I can totally see how it feels dirty or disrespectful if it’s just a casual hookup, or someone you’re not very close to yet.
Listen to your gut. If him finishing in you isn’t something you feel comfortable with, don’t do it for now.
I wonder how you feel about this person? I feel like something must be a bit off if you feel this way.
With my partners, if they are someone I care for, enjoy and find clean and appropriate- their finishing inside is pretty neutral. Sort of like “okay, cool”
If I were to engage with someone I wasn’t sold on or someone who didn’t sit right with me I think I might feel how you do now.
Either way, the people you choose to engage with sexually is your business and it is all up to you.
It definitely feels weird at first, it’s definitely messy, and it’s definitely something that’s a “kinda takes a bit to get used to” for me the weird feeling was the fullness feeling afterwards. My spouse and I though every time we forget the tissues so we would kinda laugh at the race to the bathroom every single time afterwards.
If it’s not for you it’s not for you, but it is one of those thing where it is what it is when it comes to reproduction. But you do feel messy afterwards and I guess that’s why you feel disgusting. It isn’t disrespecting your body at all though and don’t shame yourself for the fact. One thing that helps me is hopping right in the shower afterwards and washing myself off, that way you get everything cleaned up.
Just make sure if you are doing this though to at least be on birth control, like the pill, shot, patch, ring, iud, implant.
In my experience, I’m only ok with them finishing in me if I ask! In the past, this has been something that was negotiated beforehand, and then when they tell me they are close to finishing, the consent is given by me telling/asking/begging for them to do it.
I think I would be pissed if someone (especially not a boyfriend) just went ahead and did it! So i understand where you are coming from
No. I personally almost exclusively want that type of finish so this doesn’t resonate with me. Personal preferences differ!