Does anyone have the issue of being able to dirty talk in messages and then being awkward and struggle with it irl when it comes to hookups?

I kinda struggle with using apps for casual sex because of this reason. I’m smoother than smooth peanut butter when talking in the DMs but then I’m awkward when it comes to meeting irl, some due to nervousness of interacting with a stranger. It’s so annoying and worried of it putting off potential FWB- even if the sex goes well, like I struggle with acting sexy. There’s been a lot of times where it’s gone both ways though where me and the person would be filthy on the DMs but both too casual and kinda not able to do sexy talk in person- like the chemistry outside of the sex isn’t there.