This guy (25M) that i’ve (21F) been seeing for 3 months is still not over his ex, well atleast I think so, and i’m not sure what to do or say about it. Around three weeks ago I broke things off with him because he was telling me a story about a friend that was having relationship issues but the story that he had told me was one that he brought up about his ex a long time ago. Like there were similarities. The story was that “the friend” had a girlfriend who lived in Florida and they were supposed to meet because they’re long distance but she ended up flaking because of a lame excuse. When I confronted him about he proceeded to say that he didn’t say Florida but instead said Tennessee which is a lie. His ex lives in Florida and there were other small details that added up. I broke things off and told him it’s probably better off that we just remain friends. He called me that night saying that a family member passed away and we made up, Fast forward to now, he’s been really emotional lately and of course that’s understandable because he told me he lost someone. I feel terrible thinking this way and I know he’s sad but he keeps talking about a “family friend” not accepting that he’s changed and “that he needs to grow up”. I don’t know what to do but I know that he’s upset about more than what he’s telling me. I want to be there for him but it’s hard to help someone get over someone else, it’s like i’m a placeholder.
side note: if there are any extra details that I need to give just lmk