Me and my bf have been together for couple years. We’re together almost 24/7 and lately, I can feel distance between us. He easily gets frustrated with me and snappy with me lately too. I feel like he’s getting annoyed because we talk about the same things over and over again. I just can’t help but overthink like is he cheating on me? Hiding something from me? I hate the feeling for doubting him. I get anxiety attacks just by thinking about it and sometimes, my girl instinct just kicks in and it feels like it’s telling me something but I just tell myself “you’re being paranoid for no reason.” What should I do? Because every time I try to say something, he just tells me that I’m overthinking. There is nothing to worry about. He’s just tired and list goes on. At the end, he makes me feel like I’m just dragging things to make it as a big deal. I can’t seem to tell him what I actually feel because he just shuts me down by pointing my attitude, this and that. Is he tired of me? Is there someone else? Ladies and gentlemen, I’d appreciate your thoughts and advices. Thank you.
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gut feelings are usually there for a reason. sit down and ask him why he’s getting frustrated and snappy with you. if that happens all the time, something’s up.
I don’t want to discredit your gut feeling. It’s trying to tell you something in your relationship has changed. So it might be worth a conversation about why he’s been upset. There’s something going on and you are right to try to figure out what’s causing it. Either it’s something you two can work on together or, if he is cheating, you can get out and find someone better. If you do seriously think he’s cheating and ask about it, he might cover his tracks even more. But it seems a conversation needs to be had about what’s bothering him. If he’s not open about it, that might be a sign he’s trying to hide something.
You also mentioned you’re together 24/7, and that could be contributing to his short fuse. While it’s important to be able to be around your partner for extended periods of time, it’s also really important that you both have space occasionally. You both should still have your own hobbies and friends independent of the other. It’s part of a healthy relationship. If your anxiety prevents you from doing that, I recommend talking to a therapist to build up your confidence and find ways to reduce your anxiety. I’m not saying this is why he’s acting strangely, just something to think about while trying to decide your next step.
Decide if you’re still happy in this relationship. Or if it might be a good time to focus on you. If he’s unwilling to talk through things or tell you what’s bothering him, that’s definitely a red flag.
Always listen to the guts. Lest you want to sit with shitty undies.