My girlfriend and I were having sex just before bed tonight and she said she wished I’d give her aftercare. What kinds of things can I do to make her feel better?

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  1. Clean her up, bring her some water, snuggle. Communicate with the person you’re having sex with and ask what she needs

  3. if she’s longing for aftercare then she should be able to supply you with the what and how, if not, then how can she expect you to perform the after care, if she can’t even effectively communicate her needs?

    Aftercare is extremely personal, i’ve had a partner who cried a lot a lot after sex sometime and i was like dafuq? the first time and afterwards i helped them bc you know needs were communicated.

  5. Things I do…maybe clean her up (although she’s pretty much gonna get up and go to the bathroom anyway), cuddle, get her water/food, talk about how great it was/what we enjoyed, play with and kiss her body.

  6. Mental aftercare: don’t just ask her if she liked it or “did you?”. Tell her how much you liked it. How incredible she made you feel. How much you love her.

    Physical aftercare: cuddles, light touch around her body, play with her hair, but mostly lots of cuddles.

    Practical aftercare: bring her water, help her clean herself (bring a towel or if you made a big mess take a bath), help clean the room (change sheets, put away clothes and any toys).

  7. depends, did you make sure she finished? If she is satisfied with sex, then cuddles if what she means.. make sure she feels not used and is feeling loved and cared about.

  8. My partner grabs a towel and cleans me up, and then we sweetly snuggle naked for a little bit. Then I hop up to pee right away. It’s a nice ritual. What not to do is roll over and immediately be preoccupied with something else. Let the moment last for a bit and hold some space for it

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