I want more intimacy

I (32F) really want more intimacy from my husband (37M) I’ve expressed it in all the ways I can think. Even the ways my therapist offered and it will happen for a Day and then it’s over with. I’m trying to decide if it’s me or it’s him and he just doesn’t care if see the point? My husband is awesome. I love him very much. We have so much fun together and I genuinely enjoy spending time and being with him but… he is more of a just grab my butt all day or talk about it, can talk about sex in a way that is hot sometimes and once we get to he doesn’t disappoint however … emotional acts of intimacy just aren’t there. He’ll talk dirty any time any place, but I am craving soft touch, kissing and making out, slow hands, and just the build up before you get in the bed. Sweet words said, he barely calls me beautiful it’s always very sexual compliments about my body parts. I just feel like I miss being seen for my heart and who I am, not for what my body and the sexualized parts of my body look like. I feel guilty sometimes because I will day dream and think back to times when I was with someone who made me feel seen emotionally.

I make all attempts to be nurturing and soft. To passionatly kiss my husband, to touch him with intention throughout the day. I compliment him and make sure he feels deeply loved. I just I dk… sometimes I feel like I may love harder and so differently from him and that I just need to get over it.

I truly feel bad and guilty but I need more from him. I’m not sure he can give it to me. Thinking and feeling that hurts.

TLDR: Craving closeness and more emotion and intimacy from husband. We have many convos about it. Nothing is changed.