What is your preference: a wife who dresses ‘modestly’ or one who wears whatever she feels (can be booty shorts, showy mini dresses)?

38 comments

1. Am I his father? Whatever the fuck she wants.

2. Whatever she wants.

   Any other answer is seeking to control another person.

3. Whatever she feels, and if that’s modest, okay. If not, okay.

4. I don’t care. Whatever makes her happy.

   Modesty is subjective. Mini dresses could be considered modest. And I don’t really care

5. I prefer women who aren’t afraid to express their style whatever it may be.

6. Allowing your S/O to be confident in herself is what’s important. If she wants to show off, show off. Whether she’s skinny, fit, or curvy.

7. A woman who can pull off either look.

8. She should wear what she wants of course. Advertising when I’m not with her is disrespectful and a huge red flag though.

9. Whatever makes you happy. I don’t own anybody.

10. Think of how your grandma dressed. Like that. I like class.

11. Modestly

12. If a man is happy to date a woman who dresses immodestly (by what OP is saying), but doesn’t like it if she’s his wife, it’s not about her, it’s about him and his ego and his paranoia about other men.

    If a man dates a woman who intentionally and voluntarily dresses very modestly, and then does a 180 after marriage, his preference IS about her. She presented herself one way and became another. Some people seek modesty in their partners, which is fine.

    It goes the other way too

13. 🎵Lady in the streets but a freak in the bed🎵

14. Everyone should wear whatever they feel…whenever they want!

15. Whatever she feels sexy in. She’s coming home with me, not the guys who notice her.

16. Those aren’t opposites.

17. I prefer that she doesn’t go out looking like she’s got to make $2000 by 6 am to make rent.

    But hey, I’m not about to tell her what she can and cannot wear. 🤣

18. No wife. I prefer to have no wife.

19. As a woman who dresses (modestly) i don’t give a damn about how my husband or any other man’s preferences about my clothes

20. A woman who will blow me whenever I want. Wait…was that an option?

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22. i prefer her to be comfortable with her choice of cloths

23. If you think the clothes she wears is an indicator of her promiscuity, you have a lot to learn about people.

    Plenty of “prude” looking women have and do cheat.

24. If you married a conservative woman then that is what you should have but if you married one not so conservative then you get what you chose, but if she changed from one to the other then you have a problem.

25. I’m turned off by someone dressing revealing. That’s just my preference though

26. I prefer a partner who *chooses* to dress modestly (by modest I don’t mean like a 1950’s housewife, just not ass and tits everywhere) of her own accord. If it was apparent someone enjoyed dressing in revealing clothing from the beginning I simply wouldn’t pursue them. I’m not looking to change anybody, I’d rather just find someone who I’m compatible with in terms of expectations.

    That said, if either myself or my girlfriend randomly started flaunting ourselves to others despite previously claiming that we’d never do something like that throughout our entire relationship **then** I imagine it’d necessitate a serious discussion.

27. I prefer a woman who dresses for the occasion and with confidence and pride in her appearance. In other words, unless she’s a stripper, not booty shorts and mini dresses, but if we are going to a cocktail party, a short dress would be fine. Going to the store in jeans is fine too, but if all she wears is jeans, never an ounce of makeup, never puts effort into how she looks, then no, I won’t really care either.

28. Do I look like her wardrobe?

29. I only chased girls who wore modest clothes, they usually have a lot more self respect and less baggage. My wife dresses modest in public but wears skimpy outfits when home with me. Perfect wife in my eyes

30. I don’t care what they are wearing. I’m not the biggest fan of a sexy look but I’m not complaining either if that’s what they like to wear.

31. My preference is one who dresses in things I like seeing her in.

32. Get you a girl that knows the time and place for both.

    Dated someone once who tried to wear a lace bralette and tiny shorts to my friends’ toddlers’ birthday party. That’s the only time I’ve ever requested that a woman put on MORE clothes. (Before anyone takes issue with that… she did ask.)

33. A wife who wears what she likes but has some got-dang sense about what to wear and when to wear it and where to wear it.

    There’s a time and a place for a mini-skirt that could double as a belt, and it isn’t while mucking out a stable or having tea with the vicar.

34. Modestly.

35. A wife that you can show your mom without her thinking you’re paying by the hour

36. Modestly. It looks much better, beautiful, classy and mature. I love these long beatiful expensive dresses, it’s like a tuxedo on a man

37. My preference is for her to dress as slutty as possible. Her preference is to cover what she can and not be to hot in it.

38. one that is not fixated on what her clothes say about her. too many dressing choices are strictly libked to the social effect and feedback they generate the wearer.

    mine wears whatever she likes. screw dressing up or down for others, dress for yourselves.