My wife has asked to separate for 6 months and I have til the end of December to find a place, I’m heartbroken, and have worked on myself for so long, is it possible to heal a relationship if I put in the work?

Married 3 years, yes they have been up and down.

Admittedly, I have had issues with decision-making, money spending, committing to a child by a certain date, etc. so she hasnt found me to be reliable

So I respect where she is at, yet I also have put so much work into myself and the relationship to heal from childhood wounds and be more emotionally available.

The reason I made it so complicated is that I wanted to be more aligned as a man, like more in tune with my emotions, be able to express myself better before jumping into kids,

Also, I moved pretty far away from friends and family so we could live together, so I’ve had to rebuild my life in a new city

We’ve tried couples counseling and are still in it, yet I really feel the counselor is so and dry that I lack a good connection with him to make lasting changes, he’s smart, PHd yet I just don’t feel his method works for me like my individual counsel does

I listen to relationship pods and have had read numerous books to help understand attachment, etc. and am serious about ‘picking myself up’ and being amazing man who can protect and love her the way she deserves

I’ve come such a long way and really consider myself a solid husband and reliable person who wants to show my love for her and for her to know that we are family

We still talk about emotions, spend time together alone and with friends, yet it doesn’t feel like we’re a couple…like there’s an invisible wall of non togetherness..and it’s her whos more ‘distant’ / afraid of letting go into the relationship fully, again

Anyhow, I love her and we have a full life in this city now with friends etc. and now I may lose it all

Yesterday she was talking to an international friend she met overseas (girl) and they’re already talking about making plans to meet in Mexico or something next year ..she told me that and it just ripped my heart out

Anyhow, I think she’s a great person, I really do genuinely admire her and my insecurities lead to her falling out of love,

I guess I need to get my own place for 2024, yet not sure what I can do in the meantime? Any recommendations, is it possible to reconcile?