He says nothing is good enough for me.
He says is he talk about anything, some how I talk negatively, He get a lecture
And a whole lot of other complaints.
The issue on my side is that it didnt start off this way. Our major contention is his work. He has a double masters, he is ambitious, talks that he wants to do so much like start his business, but he doesnt do it. 15 years of marriage… with choppy work history. His work ethic is not like mine so i bear the burden. He is not a loser… just really relaxed and not a planner. Like he is 47 and has no 401k. No savings. (We have savings but mostly they are from my work history) which are completely joint.
So when i urged him 10 yrs ago, to go and do something more to his caliber, he just ignores me. Deflects the conversation. This is with everything.
Now with two kids i am saturated. However his narrative of our life is that all we did was fight, even me urging him for his career , he says i never wanted him to succeed. Which is crazy , i would have loved it if he did, cause we would have easier life.
He doesn’t want to be around me, and due t no love affection, i pick fights about everything. Lots of resentment on both sides. We haven’t even held hands or smiled at each other much less had sex for 4 or 5 years.
Our communication is completely broken, it was never good, honestly.
We are trying therapy its not working.