Hi! Yesterday my gf’s cat died. Her mother called her in the morning, while she was at my house. At that moment I consoled her and we stayed together, we had breakfast and there were even moments of great laughter. In the afternoon we had a movie planned with our nieces, I knew she didn’t want to cancel it. She had a good time, she had fun although there were moments when we were alone and I stepped aside to hug her because she couldn’t contain the cry. When we finished, she insisted that I return home or stay with our nieces, but I chose to travel with her to her neighborhood, two hours away from mine. I wanted to give her company as much as possible. When she arrived home, she sent me a message and I replied her, sending strength.
We don’t use to chat too much, although we send memes, we have a Spotify playlist and also a Google Drive together for planning. It is not normal to ask each other ‘how are you?’, because we are quite independent when it comes to that. I know that I can’t do anything for her loss, but whenever we are far away and I know that she may be sad about some event I start to think if I could do something, it makes me sad to know that she is sad. I dedicated a song to her and sent her memes, but apparently she is away from her cell phone. I know I walked her home last night and sent her strength, but I still think a lot about her and her sadness.
Thanks for reading. Just looking for any advice

2 comments
  1. For me it’s been year and a half since I lost my cat, and the mental pain is still sometimes gutwrenching, and I still miss her daily. My brain still does some things with her in consideration, expecting to stumble on her, having random flashbacks of what she did, and so on. So that’s roughly what your girl will be dealing with. Just be there for her when she reaches out. Be kind and empathetic and generous and respectful and distract distract distract. Losing a pet/family member is hard, and takes months/years to get over.

  2. If you got some photos you could try turning them into a gift, like send her a framed photo, find an artist to draw a painting with the photo as reference or something like that

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