Reading erotic stories or watching porn together for married couple to revive sex life, is it a good or bad idea? And why please?

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1. Give it a try. We made a together reddit account for looking at nsfw stuff but it’s too hard to get stuff we both like to see.

   Reading a well written story can surely be a nice addition to get some heat back in bed. It’s not out of the ordinary so ask your partner and give it a try

2. I think it’s a great idea if both of you are on board with it

3. So, you don’t say if your wife is interested in notching up or reviving your sex life. It sounds like you’ve hit a dry spell because she is an exhausted new mom of twins.

   If the sex is suffering because she is exhausted and is not interested, it’s going to be a stretch to get her into a frame of mind to watch porn. So in that case, it would be a bad idea, because it is going to probably make her angry.

   Saying that, if she is interested in trying to revive the magic, porn can be very helpful. Especially if you can find something that you are both excited by.

4. with young kids you wont have time for reading.. porn is faster since you will be short on time

5. First, make sure you are stepping up and taking on as many domestic duties as you can. Also, make sure to give your wife solid breaks from the kids. If you can take over some of the night feedings – even better. Basically, do whatever you can to make her life easier.

   Porn is handy for fast forwarding through the seduction/foreplay and getting right to sex when your both tired. There is great value in foreplay however, so careful not to abuse this. Porn is also great as a way of coming up with new ideas, guaging your partners interest in something, or to make suggestions that you may be nervous about. Just remember porn doesn’t necessarily translate into real life equally. There is a lot of ‘movie magic’ that your’re not seeing. Some things should also stay as porn and not be attempted in real life.

   Erotica is a good idea, especially if you’re both readers. Like porn, you can use it as a way to peek outside the box and see if there is something new that interests you. It’s something you could attempt yourself – write your own erotic short stories for her.

6. It depends, I wouldn’t really do it , there are many other ways to spice things up. Like dirty talk, sexting , something romantic you both enjoy etc.

   Porn didn’t work for me , I actually try to avoid watching it.

   My wife watches a lot of hardcore porn (like BDSM, threesomes, gangbangs) which I find disgusting.

   I rarely watched something like that myself , and even more so I wouldn’t watch it with my partner.

7. It is possible to have a healthy relationship with porn. It is also possible to have an unhealthy relationship with porn. Have discussions with your wife about expectations, boundaries, feelings, and worries, and if you end up trying it, make sure you both understand that you need to hold each other accountable for fulfilling your obligations and maintaining boundaries.

   As an example of how porn can be healthy in a relationship, me and my ex girlfriend mutually understood each other’s porn habits going in. We both still had the desire to sexually please each other any chance we could get. I personally was excited to hear about what kind of porn she was watching to give me ideas of what to try going forward, and on multiple occasions, I would watch porn with her before and during foreplay.

   Porn can also be unhealthy, for example, by disrupting a person’s obligations or causing someone in a relationship to feel neglected or jealous.

   Don’t rush into this. Take the time to figure out if it could be a mutually beneficial part of your relationship.