I’m a straight woman in my thirties, sleeping around a bit for the first time in my life. To be clear, I’m really enjoying the sex that I’m having – basically all good experiences.
However one thing I have noticed is that I tend to take charge of my own orgasms. It sometimes can take me quite a while to come, but if I touch my clit either during sex or penetration with fingers, it’s fairly straightforward to orgasm, as long as I don’t put too much mental pressure on myself to come quickly.
The guy I’m currently seeing would like to make me orgasm by himself, and I also think that would be great, but a few things make this tricky.
Firstly I’m not very good at explaining what feels good. I am vocal when something feels good, but he’s asked me how I like to be touched, and I don’t really know / have the words to explain. So I don’t want it to be frustrating for him if it’s not working but I can’t explain why, or I can’t say what would be better.
Secondly as I mentioned, I have a problem with mental pressure – if I’m trying to hard to orgasm, I just can’t. I basically have to stop trying, just enjoy the sex for a while, and wait until I get close again. So if someone else really wants me to come, sometimes that can trigger this pressure issue and make it very difficult.
So that’s the situation. Any advice or tips would be appreciated!
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Show, don’t tell.
Show him how you get yourself to cum, either solo w him watching or while in missionary, touch yourself to orgasm, and have him watch while banging you.
You can even direct his hand, physically, till he gets the control down.
GL