I get wildly in my thoughts when I masturbate . I literally have never made myself cum (25f). I used vibrators, dildos, my hand etc. I’m extremely sexually active, sex is not the issue it’s just when I’m by myself even if I’m in the heat of the moment I just randomly lose it and feel nothing . Been like that since I first ever did it like 12 whole years ago . Also don’t think I ever was able to cum from sex only oral idk if that has anything to do with it. I want to be able to please myself without being turned off half way through. Porn doesn’t even do anything for me even if it looks sexy and is starting to turn me on it just doesn’t get me where I need to be. Even if I’m fantasizing and am super into my thoughts I just lose it every time even if I try to get out my head . NOTHING works any tips?
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If it’s like that since you’ve started maybe it’s in your mental side.
Like even though you do it you don’t consider it as the actual means to reach your purpose… which is cumming.
Like everything else involving humans, psychology has a lot to play.
Your psyching yourself out being like this will never work
Can you cum from penetrative sex with a partner?
Try the little sucker toy from hello cake. It’s life changing
Try imagining yourself with someone you enjoy having sex and masturbate.
MDMA
Another commenter mentioned sucker toys and I absolutely second this. I have one and it is a different sensation from a regular vibe and it may be helpful for you.
Also, have you ever tried reading smut? I struggle with getting lost in my head a bit and I find that reading smut forces me to concentrate on something and then it’s kind of easier for my body to let go a bit.
Do you have any guys you can’t sext? I was the same, I dunno maybe cuz I’m not turned on by myself. But a year ago started sleeping with this guys and we started msging, what we want to each other, photos all that. Started to get so turned on and wanting to cum for him, that I did. Now, even if we aren’t texting I do find it a little easier to get there (tho honestly not always) if I’m struggling I read back over our msgs.
Try a clit sucker like the satisfyer pro or womanizer they are literally amazing. It’s like it unlocks a whole new level of pleasure I didn’t think was possible lol
While this post has gained some attention figure I’d utilize the moment to ask if anyone knows if I can change my username ? Lol I notice everyone has custom names when I made my account it made this one for me 😂
Clitoral stimulation! Definitely get a rose