Doesn’t anyone else struggle with this?
I know I have some rejection sensitivity, but I have lived my whole life being the back up option. Always the one initiating and making plans and if I don’t then everything stops.
From those experiences, the moment someone says “maybe” or doesn’t seem to care, I’d rather not anymore.
What really upsets me is making plans with someone and they cancel to hang with someone else. Or they don’t even tell me, they just don’t show up and are hanging with someone else.
I get life popping up or being tired, but at least let me know. And don’t drag me along while I’m excitedly planning things. I look forward to those plans. It sucks to find out that the other person saw it as an option until something more exciting happens.
I just can’t imagine doing this to other people. If I ever forget plans or have something pop up I try to let then know as soon as I can, tell them I’m sorry, and try to reschedule it if they would still like to.
It makes sense to do that.
It makes me not want to plan with those people again bc I’d rather find someone who is just as excited to see me too.
Why are people like this? Does anyone have an idea?
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No that’s fair, unless they’re like, I might have to work that day or they are expecting something that could come up, then they should be either yes or no.
I’m sorry you’re the back up plan that’s so mean.
Something that might help, is most people just say they’ll hangout to be nice. They don’t Actually mean it