I am frequently accused of being boring, uninteresting, and socially awkward. As a consequence of that, I do very poorly talking face to face with people, for example on dates. How do you change that? I would say my biggest problem is that I simply don’t know what to say, or when I do not know how to express my thoughts. So for me, it is primarily an issue of creativity, eloquence and insight.
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Sounds like you know what you should do. Become interesting. How do you do this? Start some hobbies (martial arts, sport, playing an instrument, learning a language, dancing…)
You’re likely socially awkward because you’re not confident in yourself. How do you address this? Put effort into how you present yourself. Hit the gym, eat healthily and choose a clothing style that appeals to you and you think looks good. Gradually build up your wardrobe.
Find a purpose if you don’t already have one. This could be career orientated or getting really good at a particular skill.
There is no easy shortcut. And even if there was, what is the point in being able to come off as interesting to other people if you’re actually not.
I just want to say, that I feel this post so much. very often I’m around people and my mind goes just blank. I have absolutely no idea, what can I say to them, what to ask about. it is frustrating. I’m trying to get comfortable with silence. after all I’m not the only person, who can start a conversation. it’s not my resposibility to entertain anyone with a talk.