For context, I am a 26 year old Filipino male. I’m also gay. I struggle with having meaningful platonic and friendly relationships with straight men. In terms of my personality I’m neither feminine nor masculine. I’m kind of in the middle. I can easily befriend women. I find conversing with women to be very productive and their jokes don’t seem as harsh as men do. When I’m around stereotypically straight men I have no clue how to interact with them and I often times find myself staying quiet. I genuinely want to build a friendly relationship with guys and be part of a group but I can’t get over this hump of social anxiety/awkwardness. I feel like men sense this and don’t talk to me for this reason. Does anyone else feel this way? I feel like when I talk to men I sound like a robot and ask very superficial questions like “How are you?” “What are you up to?” But the moment another guy talks to them they easily have a conversation that is entertaining and productive between the both of them. Any tips would be appreciated.
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You can practice your social skills right here on Reddit. Start messaging people that are interesting and just say hi and ask them about their day. Slowly you will improve your social approach and you will make some friends
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I wouldn’t bother forcing it too much with straight men it will be easy with some not others just feel it out and those who you’re comfortable talking too keep in touch
If you’re more comfortable with girls just hang out with more girls go on nights out etc maybe try find a gay bar they can come with you too for example