I (F) am afraid I might be fetishising my partner(M) and I feel absolutely petrified. I absolutely love my partner, he’s gorgeous, funny, sweet and really fun to be around. I love him to death. But I recently realised that I only focus on his weight during sex, I also get insanely turned on when we have lunch or dinner. I love seeing him eating. I’m afraid I’m fetishising him because of his size and big appetite. I think he looked absolutely gorgeous before he gained weight (he was chubby) but I can’t stop thinking about him now. And I realised my inner monologue is all about his weight and I feel absolutely disgusted by myself. I love him for everything he is but I can’t even look at him without fantasising about him now. I am turned on all the time and it’s all because of his weight. We still do everything we used to do together and I love spending time with him outside the bedroom. Can’t imagine a life without him but I don’t want to be so fixated on something so objectifying. I loved his body before he gained weight and wouldn’t mind getting that back but holy smokes I can’t complain about this newer body. I don’t know how to feel about this. I hate feeling this way. I want to love him for him.
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Would you still be with him if he lost weight?
Sounds like you already do love him for him. Loving something about him extra is just a bonus imo
This sounds like a kink more than a fetish.
From what I remember they go as follows:
A kink is something that isn’t needed, but helps turn you ok.
A fetish is something that you need to be turned on.