So, a week ago I went to a friend’s birthday party where I didn’t know anybody except for the host. I ended up talking about some generic shit with a few people after a couple of drinks to lubricate the soul but in the end I never really felt like myself there.\
I have tried doing this (going skiing with a group I just knew 1 person in, go to parties I don’t know anybody but the person who invited me,..) because I had convinced myself I had sufficient social skills but I legitimately never thrive in these environments and always feel small and restricted.\
Are there any strategies to do well in such an environments or is it really a case of *being born with it*?
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You need a confidence idol you can pretend to be. Ie Jennifer Lawrence. When I’m in a situation I don’t feel comfortable in, I pretend I’m Jennifer Lawrence. She is relaxed, unbothered, self deprecating, leans into to people in conversation, laughs easily, not afraid to be silly or put her foot in her mouth. I embody that, works for me!