Hi, wife (33) and I (35) have a very strong sex life with almost daily sex (even as parents).
She’s selfish and even admits to it in a sexy way, she’ll say thing such as “I’m feeling selfish, I want you to take care of me”, I find this hot and really does get me going when she says stuff like that. I am a worshiper and a giver so I oblige, I almost rather give oral than have sex sometimes.
Thing is, I want her to beg or have her earn the pleasure I give her, what are some fun and sexy ways that I can do this?
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First, does she want to beg? If so, I imagine teasing, lots of it. Naked rubbing on her but not actually fucking her. Kisses all over. Get her worked up and wet, then pulling off and more loving touching.
When giving oral and she’s close to climaxing stop or slow what you doing and tell her to beg you to make her cum.
Edging start edging her and tell her she’s not getting what she wants til she begs for it… should heighten the experience for her and you should enjoy it because it’s giving.
I’d probably start by talking about the new dynamic. With her being used to giving demands and you catering to them as a worshiper, you’ll need to be open with her on how you’d like her to be the one holding on to her needs to please you, in this case, by giving you eager dirty talk. Just like she’s honest about being selfish, you should be honest about wanting to tease her this way.
With no communication, she might feel like you are using sex to leverage power against her. And not everyone enjoys that kind of teasing, which is why it’s important to talk about it first.
You can say it very straightforward, “you know what turns me on? To have you eager and desperate for me to worship you. To tell me how much you want and need me, and to beg me to do things to you.”
Try giving her points for good deeds but you decide what the deeds are?
“Hey, honey. It’s so hot when you tell me you need me to take care of you. Do you think you could as a bit of begging in there for me, and then I can bring you close a couple of times and you can be all desperate for it before I finally let you come? I fantasize about that all the time.”
Or something like that. Basically, just ask.
Lick her, finger her, take her right to the edge …then order her to say dirty thing or to praise you if she wants to cum.
Just stand in front of her, cross your arms over your chest, give her a stern, no-bullshit look, and say, “Beg for it.” Don’t worry. She’ll find that fun enough.