What Influenced Your Dating Strategy? Is it effective?

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1. I got a divorce and decided I’m done with commitment. No relationships and no marriage. I don’t mind casual stuff. But nothing more than that, thx.

   I guess it’s “effective” inasmuch as women seem to detect my reluctance to commit and become interested in me because they seem to think “Oh, refusing to commit was his policy for his exes, it’ll be different for me”.

   No, bitch, it won’t be different for you.

2. Repetition. I was myself and kept looking for a woman that liked what that was.

   It was effective.

3. My strategy is to not date. Incredibly effective.

4. My interest in women. Yes.

5. Insecurities, mostly. I have to use online dating and can’t flirt whatsoever.

   It’s working alright.

6. There’s supposed to be strategy involved?!??

7. Well, my first girlfriend I met on tinder back in 2016, my most recent ex of 3 years talked to me first on instagram (found me through the same community we’re in).

   I think I’m done with dating apps, but you never know. I am still a member of aforementioned community and it isn’t hard to meet women that way, but it’s hit or miss. At this point I’m just hoping something falls in my lap or someone expresses interest to me/makes the first move. I second guess easily when girls are interested in me, but I’d say I’m a decent looking dude.

8. *snore*

9. Fear of rejection

10. Hard numbers. I spent a few years literally going out almost every night and recording the results, collated that in excel and a big book, refined my game until my success rate got better. Worked a treat, you just have to be completely indifferent to rejection, which is a lot easier when you’re treating it as a data point.

    It was effective, actually to the point where it got boring and kind of soul destroying. Took a long hard look in the mirror and then decided it was time to settle down.

11. My strategy is fuck them, pay them to leave, go change and grab the potato chips and watch tv

12. Paid $49.99 for hinge premium. Should’ve spent the money on pornhub premium

13. I guess autism is the greatest influence on my dating “strategy.”

    I communicate straightforwardly, and this has proven very effective. (especially for dating other autists)

14. I stopped giving a fuck about applying pressure and just focused on my own improvement while at most being eye candy for the ladies as well as a flirt only applying pressure to those I found interesting and/or applied pressure back. It’s worked very well and saved me a lot of energy & has been a fantastic investment in time.

15. God

    No