Hey guys, my friends in a very toxic relationship he’s 25 I’m 26. I have very deep feelings for him. After seeing him struggle in his relationship I decided to pull a Jim from “The Office” lol and tell him how I feel. I told him that I know we’d be better together and that I can make him much happier. Obviously that’s kind of a big thing to throw at someone but I just thought maybe if I told him he’d atleast think about it, especially if his relationship is toxic. Basically he told me he does like me but likes her too and that he doesn’t want to date or be in a relationship. I appreciated his honesty but now my feelings are hurt and idk how to get over him, I think about him all day I even cried earlier. Im very embarrassed and wish I hadn’t even said anything, I just think he can do so much better and deserves a better person. What do I do? Should I take some space from the friendship? We hang out every couple of weeks so I guess If he wants to hang out I can say no, we live in the same block so that’s how we know each other and hang out sometimes.
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You took a risk and it didn’t pay off.. that being the nature of risk. Telling someone your feelings doesn’t then make them responsible for you. It’s information.
I get that you’re embarrassed, but you must have weighed that up as a possible consequence and decided the potential reward was worth it?
If this is a genuine friendship (I.e. not one-sided) then why would you punish him, by not seeing him anymore, just for not leaving his GF for you?
So…you threw his girlfriend under the bus and you’re wondering why he didn’t throw himself at you?
Even if she truly is a vile bitch he has feelings for her and what you said is conflicting to him
And you claim their relationship is toxic but that’s just your POV, we don’t know what his thoughts about it are
You played your card, now all you can do is wait