Sometimes I try to talk to people and Im really good at asking questions, but like not every time that they answer do they ask “what about you?” When their done, the convo usually just trails off into silence. Should I be waiting for a what about you? Or should I just give my thoughts on the subject without them asking. When they don’t ask I feel like I’m just talking too much
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Stop asking so many questions , it’s boring, that’s why the convo is dying
If I care then I say what about you?
Lololol I feel like what some other comments have been hinting at is to try having banter with the person rather than just asking questions. And I think that is good advice, lots of people like banter.
But also people like it when others are genuinely curious about them and ask them questions about themselves, so try asking follow up questions, rather than just waiting for them to finish answering so that you can say your part.
Sounds like you’re waiting your turn to talk. You can either expand on what they said with your own experiences or give them a prompt to let them continue talking. This can be in the form of statement or question, and the best conversationalists know when to use what.
I would say “how about you” if my answer was short and I didn’t have much to add. I think when one person asks a question, it’s an opening for back and forth convo. Then, the second person would ask a new conversation question.
No, you shouldn’t wait. Most of conversation is unsolicited, and it’s tiring for the other person to be expected to try to get you to talk. You should assume they want to hear your response to what they said (or whatever your thoughts are) unless they seem disinterested or disengaged.