I (M28) have no problem with my libido but I really struggle to climax during sex. I have been on SSRIs for a few years and have never been able to cum inside any of my partners, and have usually had to finish myself, which I don’t enjoy as I would love to have the experience with my partner. I have found that I experience significantly less sensitivity during sex and often take a long time to cum even if I’m masturbating – sometimes I get too tired and give up. This is affecting my sex life as my partner feels insecure and worries that I don’t find her attractive (although I really do – she’s honestly a 10/10 for me). I do understand why it hurts her self esteem. But this has also affected my own self esteem because I feel like there is something wrong with me. During sex I often focus on trying to reach orgasm which takes away from the experience and I get too much in my head. I just want to have a normal sexual experience.
Does anyone have any advice or experience with this?
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That’s what SSRIs do to you. It’s extremely common. You could talk to your doctor about adding Wellbutrin/Buproprion, which is an SNRI, which may help counteract the sexual side effects of your SSRI.
Yep, I had exactly the same. Strong libido, hard erections, but I just couldn’t orgasm. It’s a common side effect
Unfortunately, the only thing that worked for me was to stop taking SSRIs. But this is a side effect you absolutely need to talk to your doctor about.