Hi all, me and my bf are both 19 in college and both living with our parents for now. Me and my mom are very close and she’s 50 now and very beautiful, just to preface. Around 20 minutes ago I went through his phone while he was sleeping, I know this is wrong and this is the first time l’ve ever done this in the whole year we’ve been dating but I just had a really weird feeling in my gut something was up. As I was snooping around I opened his recently deleted folder on his camera roll and found some nude pictures of my mom when she was younger. I didn’t know these were online and have never seen this before but she did do some modeling back in the day. I’m absolutely disgusted and embarrassed, I’m really fearful he was using these as porn. I don’t know what to do from here as if I confront him he’ll know I went through his phone and feel as it’s an invasion of privacy. I’m shaking right now because I just saw MY MOMS NUDES for this first time on my BOYFRIENDS phone oh my god. He comes over to my house regularly and talks with my mom and I don’t know if I’ll be able to have him over knowing this. I’m really hoping that it was an innocent reason but I don’t know why he would have these screenshotted or why he looked her up in the first place. How do I continue from here? Thank you if you’ve read this far
Edit: I’ve confronted him and posted an update
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I don’t think there’s an innocent reason babe, dump him. For the simple reason that I think you’ll have a hard time looking him in the face again
what gave you the urge to go through his phone? You’re gut has already told you not to trust him, follow it and dump him. There isn’t going to be a good or innocent reason for him to have those pictures.
You are too young to deal w any of this, dump him
> I’m really hoping that it was an innocent reason
Don’t be naive. If you have to put in a gold mental performance of mental gymnastics, where’s the fucking point?
Break up with him now, girl. It’s absolutely disgusting.
Confront your mom first
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Make sure mumma ain’t send them his way this some Maury ish
If there’s an innocent reason, you’d know about it from him and not by snooping.
If he came across something like that online, there’d be no reason to have them saved. If someone sent it to him, he would’ve come and told you and told you about promptly deleting them too.
This is gross and nasty and pleas leave
Its simple . He is secretly an artist and he is collecting pictures from female models to draw. And its just a coincidence that the modell is your mom. And he doesn’t even know. 😉😇 /s
Someone has hots 🥵 for moma!
As a guy, for real, it was in a deleted folder, right? How often have you realized your phone/computer downloaded something without meaning to? It could be he was surfing around, found them clicked and phone down loaded them, then realized and deleted the. Now, why he was someplace they would be is a northern issue. And you may want to give mom a heads up that they are out there.
On a side note, it’s another example of it never goes away. Think twice about sending that pic.
You are 19! Dump him, that so strange he has YOUR OWN MOTHERS NUDES on his phone.
Beyond weird. You deserve better.
[This ](https://youtu.be/dZLfasMPOU4?si=8YAKpigOuhTRYHVp) summarises your situation perfectly. Best case is he heard about it from somewhere and decided to see it from morbid curiosity. Worst case is he is having an affair with your mom. In either case, I would break up.
You already didn’t trust him which is why you looked. Stacey break up with him he’s into your Mom
I confronted him, would you guys be interested in an update post? Thank you all for your comments and concern this is the weirdest situation I’ve ever been put in and I’m so disgusted and confused so thank you for all caring enough to give me guidance on this it means a lot.