Hey everyone i [F41] have recently been chatting with a younger man [M25]. I’ve never been in this situation before but I have found the attention very enjoyable. My question is do you think the age gap is too big. I get he’s an adult and can make his own decision but also there is a big gap and I don’t want to pressure him into it. What do you think
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Just follow the campsite rule. As the older, more experienced person, it’s your job to leave him better off than when you found him. Communicate intentions and expectations clearly.
perfectly fine
I’m gonna sound judgmental but this is totally personal preference. I’m 29F btw.
It’s…kind of weird tbh if you want a relationship or anything more than a hookup. He is probably looking at you as a porn category; MILF. Heck, I’m pretty sure even I am considered a milf to some early 20s guys. If you’re fine with that, and know about it – then more power to you. Own the sexy MILF title and enjoy it. He’s an adult, you’re an adult. No harm.
Also, don’t feel like you’re being used. You can use him back! It’s just for fun, so have fun the both of you.
But if this is about a relationship…then girl, brace yourself for raising someone you did not birth!
Half your age +7 is usually the acceptable minimum. For you that would be 27, so it’s a bit off, but this strongly depends on the specific context of your relationship
I think you are more worried about what other people think, some of the issues I hear are different maturity levels, and common interests, and sexual desire he being 25 is likely pretty sexed up, and you have menopause to think about possibly in the future which can all but stop regular sex. You know him best have a talk and see if it is something he want to try.
You’re both adults 25 or older. I feel like age gaps don’t matter at that point. As long as you’re both of sound mind, all that matters is that you vibe with each other.