I don’t cum from penetration

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1. Very normal. So normal that 70%+ of women say they can’t reliably orgasm from PiV sex or not at all.

   What about the 20%+ of other women? Well, there are probably exceptional reasons due to their physical characteristics, their partner’s physical characteristics or how they engage in PiV sex.

2. Yes your normal, sometimes my wife does but usually cliteral stimulation does the trick

3. It’s common knowledge. Moreover, the New York Times (I think it was) reported a survey by sex researchers that only 1/6 women cum from penetration.

4. Depends on position. Truth is, the G spot and A spot are located on the ceiling of the vagina. Therefore a man must stroke going towards the ceiling. Best positions for orgasm is edge of the bed and her legs at a 40 degree angle. And the man strokes upwards towards the ceiling

5. It’s very normal.

6. You could try with a g spot toy first and once you unlock that it’s a matter of trial and error with your partner and if he’s a decent guy he’d be more than happy to communicate about what works best for you

7. My wife always cums with penetration, most times twice. But, the clitoral stimulation is critical. When I am thrusting into her, I make sure my pubic bone is rubbing her clit at the same time when I am fully in. That is what takes her over the edge. Body type could also make a difference. My wife’s clit when horny and wet grows in size a bit and gets hard and protrudes from her labia. So it is easy to stimulate during penetration.

8. Yep, most women require clitoral stimulation. My wife uses a small vibrator during piv and oral, it’s awesome I highly recommend it

9. Female orgasm is tied to clitoris and with certain individuals clit is also a bit inside. They are physically able to cum on penetration. Most dont.

10. Everyone is different but what you describe is more common. I’ve had partners that could easily, or like with my wife I have to get her off first with oral/toy/ manual clitoral stimulation then penetrating and she’ll be able to knock a couple O’s out

11. Try bullet vibes or rubbing your clit during penetration 🙂 vaginal orgasms are actually caused by the internal roots of the clitoris being stimulated, but most women’s don’t run close enough to the vagina for this to work.

12. Hey you’re fine, and if you get someone who likes going down on you, would be so much fun. Research says not all women can orgasm from penetration, so your 1 among them.

13. 100% normal 🙂

    And, just because that isn’t the case now doesn’t mean it can’t happen later. Aside from physiology your orgasm is highly related to mood, safety, mental health, etc.

    Your partner’s physiology matters, too, along with yours (i.e. “fit”). There are certain spots that kind of need to be hit/poked/rubbed internally for PiV stimulation. He/it doesn’t have to be huge and you don’t have to be air-tight, but that can still be a thing. A slight curve upward of penis or dildo helps in missionary. Doggy is “easiest” to hit good spots regardless of shape (I am told). Edge of bed, holding knees to chest will give your partner deep access to good spots, too, with dick or dildo. It’s not just a matter of putting it in and thrusting lol, there are some areas that need stimulation or an orgasm just isn’t likely happening.

    Also: Warm up to it/find sensations that make you want to cum while you have PiV and follow them 😉

    I love to go down on my wife so she always gets at least one orgasm orally (or manually) before any PiV, typically, but I’ve noticed that the more wet/hot she is from our warmup shenanigans the easier she cums PiV. Sometimes if I really go to town on her and she cums 2+ times, before PiV, she will orgasm again just from me easing myself into her (tight fit), sometimes before I am even all the way in. Then, after that, it’s only another 30-60 seconds of deep/full penetration and pounding and she goes again.

    Caveat: She knows she is in a small group who can cum via clit stim OR PiV, and she doesn’t seem to have any cap on orgasms, either, aside from getting a headache from too many and/or too intense. This is not a “humblebrag” LOL, just being honest. She cums pretty easy, as much as she wants, though she says it has to do with intimacy/safety compared to prior partners…that’s the only credit I can take LOL, she is just built that way and our intimacy allows her to take advantage whereas she could not prior.

    One thing I’d suggest is getting a suction vibrator to use during PiV, both to help connect the two sensations a bit and to provide some good stimulation during PiV if it just isn’t happening from the P in the V. Suctions are waaaay better than wand/traditional vibes both in terms of the sensation (sucking/gentle air blast vs. buzzzzzzzz) but also the form factor and angle you can hold it at. Whether you are on your back or taking it doggy, it’s really easy to get on your clit from “above” (i.e. passing over bush/mound) and it doesn’t get in the way of a dick or dildo. Your partner can also hold it without much issue when you are on your back if you need both hands free.

    Best of luck, and keep having safe and comfortable fun 🙂

14. Maybe find someone else.

15. I don’t either! I usually have to rub my clit while getting penetrated to get off.

16. Normal. Half of the women I’ve been with needed to be touched in addition to piv.