How do you feel dating a woman with anxiety? That might need more reassurance than others. Also, is it a her problem or does it come from a lack of trust from her partner?

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1. I feel like they all have anxiety. I’m sure that’s not true but god does it feel like it.

2. Dating anyone with mental health issues can be taxing and if someone needs constant help than it might be a deal breaker. However if you meet someone you really get along well with and they have more patience/understanding/experience with the issue than it’s likely to be less of a concern.

3. Depends, but in relation to insecurity and anxiety I’ve previously dealt with? Never again, work on your own issues before coming to me having to deal with it. I was single for years after being cheated on and went to therapy and kept to myself so I wasn’t telling some new unlucky woman to give me her passwords, ask her to reassure me multiple times a week or whatever because someone else hurt me. Whilst I get we all have experiences, don’t come here with a list of expectations and thought processes in place that aren’t to do with me. It’s draining and there’s a good chance it’ll make me mentally fatigue then check out

4. My gf has really bad anxiety. It runs in her family. Sometimes shes normal sometimes she just will go nuts about stuff that is not important and will not let it go.

   Sometimes its almost a dealbreaker. It gets annoying. But Im hard to annoy so I just listen. Anything I say flies over her anyway when shes like that so I just listen.

   She trusts me as a partner so its not like relationship anxiety. Its mainly work that stress her out. Unfortunately she brings it home and that is the part that annoys me.

5. Many people have a little bit of anxiety which is fine. But mentioning the need for “reassurance” sounds like she can’t curb it, as also evident by the second question. Of course her anxiety is her problem. These are the type of questions asked by someone who doesn’t take responsibility for their own problems. Date someone like that? Not in a million years.

6. anxiety is one thing, and depending on how much there is, its fine.

   but trust issues sounds exhausting. it sounds like a lot of pointless arguments and getting blamed for something the other person imagined. if you dont trust me, why are you dating me?

7. 1. I’m married to one. It’s less about reassurance for her. Sometimes it’s that, but sometimes anxiety is just baked into the cake and it’s more about helping her develop coping skills.

   2. Idk, haven’t had to deal with it.

8. Being married to untreated anxiety is very stressful

9. Trust issues, in the sense that I would be accused of every possible thing or not be “allowed” to do the things I like. That is a hard Hell No.

   A bit of anxiety maybe, but “crippling anxiety” or “anxiety” to the point of not functioning as an adult, hell no.

10. I do date a wonderful woman who does have pretty bad anxiety/depression and yeah it gets exhausting sometimes, but shit if you love someone it doesn’t matter at the end of the day.

11. I wouldn’t. Relationships are hard enough. “Anxiety” would only make it worse.

12. It’s hard to say. Are they trying to get better or ‘happy’ with this anxiety?

    It really depends on anxiety because not everyone the same.

13. I’m a woman wrought with anxiety. It’s awful. It’s really hard for me to be in a relationship because of it, but I never ever express it to my partner with accusations or whining. I keep it inside because it is most certainly my issue, however, women with anxiety do need to feel loved just like every other woman. When that love is apparent and practiced, it’s a huge calm for us. My word of advice is this. Make her feel loved and cared for. Spend time with her and engage with her. Ask about her day. Pay attention to her. Send her a quick text that you love or miss her. That’s all I personally need to feel safe in a relationship. Make her feel safe.

14. Okay. She can share some of my anti-anxiety meds.

15. Anxiety is just a weakness some humans have. And typically becomes a burden on others. I’d rather not date an anxiety riddled unstable burden.

16. It is her problem. That being said, I am usually more than happy to do whatever I can to make her feel better… I just need her to take accountability for her actions.

    Being accountable doesn’t mean you have to do it on your own or do everything. It just means that it isn’t an excuse to avoid everything you don’t want to do.

    I’ll usually give her all the reassurance she needs…. I just need the reassurance myself that I’m going to be appreciated rather than being expected.