It bothers me or I feel very insecure/ anxious when my friend is secretly seeing someone and not telling me about it. He might have his other friends for a longer duration of time whom they told about it. I want to understand this feeling or why am I feeling this way and if it is normal. I also feel that he feels I am not worthy enough to share this information with me. I have never had a gf before but I don’t think I am jealous. I am straight as well. Please don’t be rude, I am not a bad person just trying to understand why I feel so.
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1- you are jealous or/and
2- afraid of allocating less time for you) or/and
3- you are gay or bisexual.
>Is it normal?
You’re jealous and “yes” it’s normal to feel jealous.
May be because you just want only this person in your life as a friend . Try to make some more friends like two or three .
I feel like it is very normal. This is because your friend found another person to share their feelings with and you are possibo no longer their highest priority. It is a tough pill to swallow but you shouldn’t feel guilty. Your feelings are perfectly normal.
i don’t evem have my own friend nor bestfriend. it’s actually sucks being alone
How do you know it’s a girlfriend and not a boyfriend? How do you know he’s not making this up? Maybe he’s not certain of the relationship yet and hasn’t really told anyone. Maybe this other person isn’t completely single or the situation is complicated? There’s so many reasons he wants to keep it a secret.
The answer is in your question. It’s a secret. The way you feel is not abnormal, it simply suggests that you have to work on yourself. Your friend seeing someone and not telling you, probably has nothing to do with you. It doesn’t measure your worth. There could be a million reasons he hasn’t told you. Be kind to yourself. Your friend will share if and when he’s ready.