My relationship with my 21M fiancé has been amazing emotionally and even after 3 years we seem to be doing great, but lately we have hit a slump when it comes to sex. We went from doing it multiple times a week to maybe once or twice every two weeks and the time between each has been getting longer and longer. As a result I’ve been feeling extremely sexually frustrated as I tend to have a high sex drive. I recently brought it up with my fiancé and he expressed that he was tired of being the one to always be initiating. I hadn’t realized that was the case (it really was). Due to some past trauma I have huge confidence issues and have trouble being the initiator so I come here now to asking for some advice on what steps I should take. As well as some examples of spontaneous things I can try out to rekindle that spark of excitement we used to have.
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If you want to be the initiator, then initiate. Otherwise, don’t. – #williamsdwight3
I had a lot of problems initiating w my bf too but for me it’ll be pretty situational but like if we’re on the couch cuddling watching a movie or something I’ll just start kissing on him like his neck/face and that’ll get me going too and rub in his body a little and that’s like a casual way I do it.
I’ll also like grab onto his dick when he’s driving or something and he usually likes that or if he’s just standing or something I’ll just tell him straight up I wanna kiss it or whatever
You had the easiest one to date. Learn foreplay, and use it like a fun activity. Touching love zones and freely kissing the neck, jaw line and lip smearing helps press your want for intercourse and even will help juice up the partner to want to bang. Always remember let the partner know if you want to get railed or do vanilla acts. Also instead of saying “ talk dirty to me” say, “ tell me what you gonna do to me” purr and growl if you must do the most embarrasing stuff and they usuallly concede.