So just for context, I share a flat with 3 other flatmates and all are of same age. We work at the same firm.

So, one of them pointed out about how I have been rude to her at two instances and I want an honest advice from you guys.

So, once my roommate (lets call her y) was ill and had cough, cold and fever. I didnt want to sleep next to her, cause I could catch the same. But since other of my roommate had her bf over, they shared one room and me and y had to sleep in one. Before going to bed, I just asked her, do you have fever? To which she said- No but she was coughing and sneezing continously. And I just asked her to maintain distance and try and to cough and sneeze on the other side of bed.

Once I said this, she got annoyed and left the room, making me feel guilty.

Another time, we had a coupon of $500 given by the firm to all new joinees and all of us had one. Mine was expiring soon whereas y had already used it. So, i was planning to order for myself and I communicated the same to her since the morning. She also, wanted to eat out and was okay with ordering with me. I assumed since its my personal coupon, i would be using mine ($250) and she would pay for her own.
However, she thought i would be paying for both of us and use the entire coupon amt i.e. $500
And any extra amount we would split it up.

So in the evening, just before ordering when I was discussing with her, we had a little back and forth, cause I felt it was unfair and I genuinly wanted to use my coupon just for myself. To which, she felt extremely bad and just stopped talking to me. While it made me feel bad as well.

Was I being selfish at these instances or should I have communicated well?

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  1. If this is the full story, it seems that for the first one she was just upset that you felt uncomfortable with her being sick near you, which is understandable but you didn’t do anything inherently wrong in telling her to distance herself for not wanting to also get sick.

    The second one is completely unreasonable on her point, it’s your coupon to spend how you like. Second one sounds like she was being a bit entitled.

    Also, i think she might have a crush on you based on these two stories, i could be way off, but just keep that in mind.

    Hope this helped! 😀

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