I can see and listen to people or drawings of them or read written works of those who I know I could feel attracted to, even doing something specifically sexual in nature, still feel basically nothing in terms of arousal. But I can also, if I am thinking about arousal on purpose, feel so even if they are doing something not tied to sex at all and are doing something like wearing a full length dress, or if I can’t even see anyone at all and I close my eyes or if I am reading a written account of something sexual.
It makes me perplexed a lot about the way that attire and attitudes work in relation to sex and sexual attraction and orientation to some degree. And some of the dreams I have when sleeping.
Cishet, male, demiromantic, 23, aspie, in case that helps.