So, let’s say ya girl eventually learnt how to give really amazing blowjobs on one guy, her only ever sexual partner, who had an average size dick and phimosis. I started from a place of no skill or experience, but hundreds (and I do mean hundreds, if not a thousand) of blowjobs later and I could give him very good blowjobs in which he came, and often came hard.
But now, this girl has moved on to a new, second partner. Who is packing an absolute fucking monster (both length and girth). My hand barely closes around on this thing. What the actual fuck am I meant to do with that? Also, he does not have phimosis. Very fascinating, as I’ve never seen a guy pull a foreskin back (don’t watch porn), especially never in person, but now I get a front row seat. Very cool.
The technique I learnt on the other guy was basically jerk him off upwards with a twist, use suction and move up and down as quick as you can, and intermittently swirl your tongue around the head (through the foreskin so… apply a lot of pressure, otherwise he’ll feel nothing.)
I’m quite frankly very terrified to hurt this new guy. I already sometimes feel my permanent metal retainer rub against him, or he’ll thrust up and go into my cheek and inside my head I’m like bro! You’re great but you’re killing me here. And I might kill you if you hit my teeth too hard. How can I keep the chompers out the way? He hasn’t complained, but my god, do I worry.
I know it’s all about trial and error and I am very perceptive, detail-oriented, and definitely make sure to pay attention to what he likes (research specific to this one guy has shown that touching and sucking his balls, or touching his thighs and legs, creates very good results). That’s why I’m pretty sure I’ll get better at it with time and practice (only blown him 3 times or so, so far).
But I also just think an idea of what is good to try, and what is a crazy one-way-trip to pain-land, from guys themselves who get BJs, would be useful.
Like, I’ve seen some “blow an uncut guy” advice that says… stick tongue in foreskin? Like, push it upwards and leave some slack, then gently explore? Or suck the foreskin into the mouth? That’s something I tried with the first phimosis guy and even as gentle as I was, it was painful for him so I never did it again.
Is there something to do with the difference between phimosis and not that would change why this would be an effective strategy to giving a good blowie?
Also, like. I wish I could get more effective at deepthroating? Is that something that the average uncut guy would like? The first phimosis guy told me straight up that deepthroating did nothing for him, plus he didn’t hit the back of my throat, so I never had to get better at it, but this new guy thrusts in deep. And I straight up cannot take it in my throat. And I don’t mind his thrusting too much, but I’m not very good at all of that, I won’t lie.
I’ve gotten a nice comment about my skills from him before – “God, where’d you learn how to suck dick like that?” – but it may have been a nice thing for him to say to bolster my ego, in addition to the fact that that was the first time we fucked, so he was probably very geared up for anything.
Plus, he hasn’t cum from a blowjob with me. I get some guys can’t come from blowjobs ever, but I don’t know him well enough to know if that’s a possibility or not yet. So I will try for it, unless he tells me otherwise directly.
I’m aware of my dick-sucking mediocrity. I can make it wet, bring super enthusiasm, etc. But techniques… Bleh. Idk. I kiss and lick all up and down. I jerk off upwards but tried to pull it down a little bit, tentatively. I twist. I try to create suction. I try to be mindful of my teeth and wire retainer. I don’t think I do a terrible job, it’s just not… great.