I (30M) have been been trying to explore my bisexuality, but am having a lot of trouble with anxiety and nerves. Everytime I get close to a hookup with someone I usually tend to back out because I get too nervous about it, but have been pushing myself past those boundaries a bit.
I saw a guy for a couple months back in the summer and when I felt comfortable enough for sex we ended up making out naked together, but I couldn’t get an erection. I was very nervous and excited at the same time, but I couldn’t get there. There was no pressure from him, we took things slow, and I felt comfortable even though my body felt like it was buzzing. We still enjoyed our time together, but nothing else happened. Things eventually just fizzled out because we both got busy with work and life.
Cut to today, I finally convinced myself to try hooking up on Grindr. When I met up with the guy, same thing happened and I had trouble staying hard. He was hot and everything he was doing was great. The nerves were still buzzing like last time and I just couldn’t enjoy anything to keep me in it. Now I feel a little stuck on how to get past this.
I know I’m into guys and want to explore this, but my body just won’t respond the way I want it to. Thoughts?