2 months ago |(19f) went no contact with my friend (19m), telling him we’ll talk when he decides he wants to stay sober. He’s called me biweekly since and I didn’t answer as I’ve decided to stick it through the holidays to see if he could make it through if he was serious. I was with a friend shopping and as we were heading out, we see the dude walking in and my stomach drops. My friend starts talking with him since they’re both friends and he seemed to avoid making eye contact with me. Turns out he relapsed recently and succumbed to hanging out to a bad crowd for a night, they ended up dropping him off drunk at McDonald’s and he threw up in there so someone ended up calling the police, police came to detain him and he got violent (he’s strong too so I can’t even imagine the fight he put up) He got his head bashed by the cop and has stitches on his forehead and might get charged now. This is the 3rd bad head injury he’s gotten. I’m getting kind of worried that he’s going to end up dead with the shit he’s doing. Throughout those 2 months he’s been staying sober but I hope this’ll give him more of a reason to stay sober. Since he’s decided to stay on a sober path, should I talk to him again with boundaries implemented still? I know recovery is not linear but, it’s horrible to see the shit he’s doing with no good company around. I feel I can be some kind of support now as a friend since he’s decided he wants to stay sober and not enable him. I’m a bit stuck on how I should go from here.
Former alcoholics, how should I go on about this? What would you have wanted a friend to do in terms of support/contact?
Any wisdom/input is appreciated.