I (29F) got married to my boyfriend(33M) of 5 years just 4 days ago. Today I discovered that he might be cheating on me and I am beyond devastated. I don’t know how to act around him anymore We have been long distance from 2 years but have been very emotionally intimate as we talk on the phone constantly. We also engage in a LOT of phone sex. He has never indicated that he is unsatisfied in the relationship and has made major life decisions to be with me. He plans to move to a different country where I live now so that he can be with me and has always been the picture of extreme devotion.
Today I saw his phone lying unlocked and saw a notification pop up from a girl on instagram. Curious (since we’ve been posting a lot of pictures from our friends who attended our wedding), I opened the chat and saw that he was sexting this woman – constantly calling her his crush and soliciting nudes. Scrolled a little more in the chat to see that he has been complimenting her pictures from a while, calling her hot and asking her to sit on his face. I also found that he has been texting a couple of other girls with similar messages.
I discovered this at 2 am (3 hours ago) and haven’t been able to stop crying. I woke him up an hour into my crying and told him that I was having an anxiety attack because I think he might be cheating on me. He reassured with the the sweetest terms that I mean the world to him and that I was his favorite person in the whole world. Now he’s asleep again, and I don’t know what to do with this cheater and liar lying beside me. Any advice on how I should act now would be helpful.
TL;DR – My husband of 4 days is emotionally cheating on me from quite a while and I discovered it today. How should I act around him?