Me (F 24) and my husband (25) have been together for about 6 years. When we first met we were 18 and 19 and my husband would put more effort into what he would wear and how he presented himself. I personally didn’t care because we were young, broke, college kids and most of the clothes we owned were from what our parents bought us anyways. As time went on and we got jobs, my husbands style slowly started to take a decline. He stopped getting haircuts, his clothes started to loose its color, get stains or simply grow too small. He would never buy new clothes no matter how small they were or how faded it became. We went to a wedding and he insisted on wearing his vans with his slacks! This wedding was taking place in a catholic church and although we aren’t religious, I couldn’t help but feeling like that would be disrespectful. After much back and forth, I got him to wear dress shoes. We went to a brunch at a nice restaurant for my mom on Mother’s Day and it was probably the worst I had seen him. He didn’t shower, his pants had bleach stains, his hair hadn’t been cut or groomed, but I was too much in a rush to say anything. After the brunch I told him I was a little disappointed in what he chose to wore as I wouldn’t have shown up the way he did to a brunch with his mom out of respect for her. He didn’t see an issue. In general he feels that he looks fine but most times I think otherwise. I have brought up my disdain for his lack of effort in his appearance and he tells me he doesn’t care about how he looks and would rather spend his money elsewhere. Now I understand not being into fashion or caring about wearing the latest, but unless I buy this man new pants he is going to continue to wear his bleached stained pants like it’s the only pair he owns. I’ve asked him to at least replace the basics like his shorts that have grown too small or clothes that are stained but he won’t. We are no longer broke college kids and therefore I feel that there isn’t a reason why he should present himself the way that he does. I’m not looking to leave him as style isn’t something that is going to make me want to leave but I can’t understand how he can care so little about being presentable. Am I being shallow? Am I being too judgmental? How else can I approach this topic with him?