I (28m) saw a message on my girlfriend’s (28f) phone saying “she doesn’t find me attractive.” Our relationship has been going on for about 6 months and this message is from after we started dating. I asked her what this meant. She said she doesn’t think like that anymore. We’re even talking about marriage these days, but my mind is still on those messages. I’ve seen that she sent my photo to her friend and her cousin and asked for “their opinion on my appearance” and i’ve seen that she clasify me as “ugly”. I feel sick whenever i think about this detail. If she didn’t find me attractive, why did she date me? If she doesn’t like me, why does she want to marry me? Even though she apologized many times for this issue and said that she sees me differently now, I could’t relax. Do you think she’s telling the truth?
Edit: Dear redditors; thank you for your support, comments and messages. I will save this post and think about it for a long time. You all helped me a lot. Thank you.
As for what I will do now… I will put an obstacle to this marriage issue. However, I will ask more precise and demanding questions on this issue and demand more serious explanations. She’ll probably get a little angry during this process. If she’s wearing a mask I’ll probably drop it.
I really liked some of the comments here. I will write these comments on a piece of paper, think about them for a long time and try to write an answer on paper.
One last thing; I will only remain an ugly lover, but I will never be a stupid husband.