After 2 years out of the dating pool, I’m (28F) getting back out there and trying to navigate dating in my late 20s.
I don’t know if the internet is scaring me, but it seems like everyone has gotten SO dirty and kinky these days and I’m a little nervous about not being kinky enough for the men out there.
For reference, I do have a high sex drive and have always been a very sexual person. But I guess I’m still a little… vanilla? I don’t want anything to do with anal (for either party), I don’t take cum in the mouth (hard rule), I don’t eat ass/want my ass eaten, I’m indifferent to toys (okay with it on occasion, not regularly).
I’ve tried out a lot of “other there” things sexually and I always felt contrived during and kind of dirty afterwards. After 10 years of sexual experience, I realized that I honestly love regular, plain old fashioned sex lol. Kissing, intimacy, sensual foreplay, give some oral, get some oral, and then some good ol’ P in V–in multiple positions–and then some sweet, loving aftercare and cuddling lol. I’m not saying it can’t get intense or loud sometimes, but I ultimately view sex as an expression of love.
I realized I’ve enjoy sex most when it was a vehicle for intimacy, not a vehicle for orgasm. I’m a little worried that most attractive/desirable men want the kind of sex they see in porn. How flexible should I be willing to be with my sexual preferences?