her words always said she wouldnt marry me, and that I shouldn’t tell my parents about her as it’s going to be painful for them to know their son is going through this,over two years l’ve asked her like 7 times and there’s always been some response where her answer has basically been ” I love you, we have a different kind of bond but marriage no!” now that ive taken the offer of the table shes saying she always imagined it.
Ide class us as being in a situationship, where she’s always said were not together but we have cuddles, talk on the phone at night everynight, constantly messaging each other, etc. but I’m always the one to bring up the topic of what are we and she says “we’re not in a relationship, we have a bond that’s greater than friendship, but U can’t say what we are”
Just adding she is a really nice person and has showed a lot of care and love throughout, never played games such as blocking me or not replying, she has picked little fights and said stuff like “Ur a negative, evil person, and manipulative” in the heat of the moment but when confronted she says she’s said them in anger and never ment it. She did say she has expectations of me to provide comfort and protection for her but never said what we are or labelled us
She often said over the two years that I should look for someone else instead of being stuck on her, but she got jelouse if I ever spoke to another girl or went out with work colleagues who majority are women
And now that I’ve basically started accept that it’s a no from her I’ve tried to set some boundaries and told her not to expect the standard stuff that was part of our norm like the good morning messages, long conversations about nothing, staying awake till like 3am on the phone etc. and her response was that she considered me for marriage and always did till the point that I set those boundaries and that as a girl it takes time, but it’s been two years since we met and the actual situationship discribed has been ongoing for 1.5 years of the 2 years
Also a little point to add, she has never mentioned the idea of marriage with me, or spoke about her future that involved me in it. So I don’t understand why she’s upset now that I’ve set these boundaries.
Is she trying to keep me hooked by saying she considered me?
in our last conversation after I set said boundaries she said, I didn’t want aay yes until I was 100% sure in terms of family and herself and then kind of twisted the conversation to ask if I did say yes what wud U do for me, “would U be able to wait for as long as I need?, would you be able to feel with all the stuff that comes with me the medical issues and the xyz” to which Iresponded by saying if you think such things wud ever stop me then U have me mistaken, to which a day later she said that was the time to tell her to just say yes and to ask her to accept me.
Did she just want another proposal?
TL;DR M 27, f25, don’t understand what’s going on, she starts admitting her plan she had for the future after I set some boundaries to step away all of a sudden she had imagined so much with me but never ever said it over the two years we knew each other, why does this happen?