I’m not sure if I need to vent or if I’m looking for words of wisdom but I’m feeling like crap right now.
Backstory: I 28 (F) went on two dates with 35 (M) about six months ago after meeting on a dating app. After the second date I felt like his communication dropped off so I ended up not replying to his last message. We didn’t speak again after that until November 2023 when he randomly text me out of the blue.
We met up for drinks and he wanted to know why I had disappeared after our previous dates. He was adamant that I’d ghosted him, while my view was that conversation had fizzled. He wanted to know if I had met many men on the dating app we had both met on. I was honest and said I’d been on quite a few dates, to which he told me he’d also been on a lot of dates too (and he made the point of telling me the women he met had been Only Fans models, porn stars and influencers). He also lied and pretended that he knew some of the guys I’d been on dates with – apparently this was his idea of a joke. I should have cut him off after this date and kept it moving but I’m clearly a fool as you will see from what comes next.
From then on, we would see each other once a week and for the majority of the time he was really good company and good fun. However, every now and then he would ‘joke’ about me ghosting him and if I had plans to go out with friends, he would say things like ‘you mean you’re going on another date, right?’ He would often insinuate I was seeing other men BUT he never tried to lockdown and exclusive relationship with me.
Fast forward to last night. We went out for dinner and he brought up yet again how I’d ‘ghosted’ him and how he can’t get his head around it. When I said he didn’t reach out either after the conversation ended, he accused me of playing mind games and made a point of saying he never chases women. Then came the kicker: he said ‘I’ll be honest, you give me sl*t vibes. Ever since you said you’ve been on lots of dates it’s made me think you sleep around. Have other men told you that you come across like a player?’ I told him in no uncertain terms that he’d crossed a line and I walked out of the restaurant and blocked him.
I’m glad I’ve cut him off but I feel really hurt by his comments. They seem so hypocritical as I have always been in long term relationships (he knows this) whereas he has been single
for 7 years. Some of my friends think he’s insecure but I don’t think he is as he’s handsome and has a lot going for him. Is this guy just a manipulative POS?