I have been with my GF for 4 years now we are in our mid 20’s, and the sex doesnt exist. When we started it was pretty healthy between 3-8 times a week, but now she hasnt touched me since june last year (8 months). Its been getting worse, and worse for the past two years. It has now climaxed at he longest its been previous being 6 months, and i just dont know what to do. Realistically the only options i have are A accept the fact im not getting any while with her, or B leave her. She has no sex dive at all, she also find anything sexual gross, and vaginal sex cause her great pain because she has vaginismus. So between the unbearable pain the gross factor and her low drive to start with she has completely shut me out. She went to physio once and then said it hurt to bad doing the stretches and stopped this was about a year ago and hasnt made an effort again. She dismisses me when i tell her this is something I need, and when I suggested maybe I find someone to get my drive brought down with she completely stomped on the idea saying “im not in an open relationship”. I cant argue with that especially, because she is the only one i want to have sex with. I love her, and random sex has never been as good as the times i’ve had with her. So im at a complete loss does anyone have suggestions, or just leave her because my needs aren’t important to her and thats not a healthy relationship?