So I know this girl for a very long time, and we’re pretty close friends, we’re studying in the same college and see each other all the time.
The thing is, our relationship is great for her, she really loves spending time with me, is upset when we don’t talk for a long time, and cares about me, when I’m sad she insists on knowing the cause and helping me about it, but it’s not great for me because I want to be more than friends with her, I didn’t have the courage to open up about my feelings clearly, but tried to get the conversation on that theme and she didn’t seem interested, so I know this is going to be really painful for me, especially in the long term.
Best option is obviously cutting out my relationship with her completely, but I’m very sure she’ll be very sad and mad about this, and we have a habit of getting into deep conversations, so she’ll definitely approach me and I’ll look like a total asshole explaining to her that I won’t be there for her anymore because things aren’t going my way.
I thought about ghosting her so she won’t know the real reason and I’ll just be ”weird” but that’s too disrespectful, all I can think about is writing something short to explain everything and then block her, but I don’t really know how I can wrap the words up to not make it sound mean.
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TL;DR: I have romantic feelings for my best friend who’s female but she doesn’t feel the same, and we’re really close, so I have to end our relationship without hurting her