My wife (44F) and I (45M) have fairly frequent sex and a really, really wonderful marriage. Lately I’ve gotten a little bored with our routine though, and I’d like to know what I can do.
In general, we use our hands on each other or I’ll go down on her until she cums, then PIV sex until I do. What is frustrating to me is that now matter how I stimulate her, she always nudges me to directly stimulate her clit so she cums quickly. She is one-and-done, so after she’s finished, she guides me inside of her and starts doing things to me that generally accelerate my orgasm, and she really doesn’t look like she’s enjoying it. I’d like to have more buildup – more teasing and edging and make the experience last longer for both of us.
I have mentioned this all to her and she just doesn’t think that we rush things. Start to finish it’s usually 20-30 minutes. I definitely understand wanting to keep it a little quick when it’s nighttime and the kids have gone to bed but are in the next room, but we both work from home, so when we do it during the week, we actually have plenty of time.
What are some ideas you all have for ways that I could slow things down?