I’ve never been the type to have a lot of close friends, but I made a close group of friends in college. It was me, 27M, and 28M. (There was another 27F but we all had a fallout with her). Being that the 3 of us were single, we spent a lot of free time hanging out and were able to maintain close throughout COVID.
Almost 3 years ago, 28M started dating a girl (30F), and the 4 of us would regularly hang out. All was good until they got married 1.5 years into dating and started the next stage of their life. Whenever 27M or I asked to hang out, 28M would always reply with “I have to ask my wife” and plans never really materialized. Our group began seeing each other only once every few months. A few months ago, 27M got into a relationship with 26F. Since then, I have only seen all of them once and I always had to initiate conversation in our group chat. I am happy for all of them and told them I really don’t mind 5th wheeling if we ever hang out.
However, I recently found out that 28M, 30F, 27M, and 26F have a separate group chat, have been going on double dates, and are planning a couples vacation later this year. It’s a vacation that 27M and I planned to go on before he got in a relationship. I am happy for them, but I feel left out all because I am not in a relationships. I have not had any luck with relationships and 27M, 28M, and his wife have helped me with going through heartbreak from dating, so I will always be thankful for them.
Has anyone else experienced this? I always thought these would be lifelong friends and never thought this would happen. I can’t help but feel like I’ll end up with no friends or loved one.