Hey y’all; my co-worker invited me out to her birthday at a local club, and I want to go. It sounds exciting! But I’m very nervous; clubbing always seemed to be one of those things *talked* about but never actually done. It looks to mostly be a dance club, and I’m not good at dancing, but we’ll be drunk as hell so I don’t think ANYBODY is going to be dancing well.
I also know how to keep myself safe (Keep an eye on my drinks, and if I have to leave them, give them to a bartender or a friend; bring protection if I want to maybe do something; and I plan on bringing personal and sexual protection as well). But once I’m there, outside of hanging with my friend, what am I supposed to do? How do I handle interacting? What if I meet someone cute?
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As you are unused to the milieu I would advice you not to get drunk. It might feel nice to get drunk to get rid of the nervousness, but being drunk in an unfamiliar environment isn’t the best idea.
Smile more than normal and it will make you more approachable. Try to just enjoy yourself as your first priority. Use silly situational complements on frivolous things like a necklace, jacket, etc to break the ice. Don’t take anything too seriously. Also don’t get mad if you have a hard time getting served at the bar.
You are supposed to dance and enjoy your time. Thats about most of whats expected of you socially in a club. If you see someone cute, try dancing towards them n do something playful like give them a spin, or do a move where you shoot a cupid arrow at em lol. Anyth like that, just have fun. No being uptight at a club. Then gauge their reaction: if they are disgusted, find someone else. If they are clearly into it, escalate. If you arent sure, you can directly ask them if they want to make out/hook up. Consent is hot these days. Maybe even ask your friend to wingman you if you are nervous to cold approach someone.
Generally you just whap them on the head once. The seal is usually dead after that.