My wife and i of 10 years have our hard times and went on to use an app called spicer that allows you both to answer sexually related questions to say what sexual interests we have in common. One of the things was to surprise the other naked in bed touching themselves. According to her answers she didnt have much interest in doing that for me to find her like that but answered that she would like to find me like that. So i went for it. I stripped down on a well made bed, got myself hard and held onto myself waiting for her to come back in. When she did, she laughed. She might as well have been making fun of me for trying. Im not small, im in good shape, i wasnt making any weird faces. Her laugh just tore me apart. Like many others after marriage, she had no interest in sex. Im tired of taking shots and getting nowhere. I listen to her over everything, have her invite her family anytime she wants. I clean up after her, cuddle on the couch, take her on little dates, watch her shows with her (i hate baking shows)
I’ve taken it up with her many times and she says that her libido is just not there and gets tunnel vision with work. Its the same conversation all the time but this time i dont even want to talk about it. What do i do? We have 2 kids, and house together. Not looking for a divorce. What do i do now? How would i get her to take this seriously?